This $30 Strap-On Kit Gives You Everything You Need for Anal Play

You have a dildo, the harness, and your favorite water-based lube—so, what’s next? Well, strapping it on, of course! Naturally, if you’ve never wielded a dildo or anything phallic between your legs before, you might feel a bit strange, but don’t let that become your only feeling. Instead, embrace this new look, have a chuckle with your partner if you think it will lighten the mood, and lean into the fact that sometimes sexual exploration looks a little funny.

Once you and your partner get that step out of the way, it’s time to penetrate. With a well-lubed dildo, penetrate your partner slowly (assuming you’re the one wearing the toy). This isn’t a race, so there’s no need to rush it. Maintain an open dialogue with them to ensure that you’re both on the same page and enjoying the experience. While eventually you’ll be able to take things up a notch and won’t have to coddle your strap-on scenario so much, it really is ideal—and we can’t stress this enough—to take it slow and gentle the very first time. With enough practice, you’ll be thrusting—and/or receiving dildo penetration—with the best of them.